It's taken me nearly four years...and I'm writing it down for the days I still forget...to finally understand that I don't have to do life without you. You're still here. And you're still teaching me every day.
When the boys are fighting, or Henry tells a lie, or Sam has a meltdown, I find myself asking what you would do. You would be stern, but loving. Firm, but they would know you loved them "deeper than the ocean, taller than the mountains." In the mornings, when dressing Charlie becomes a wrestling match, I sing the song you wrote when you and I wrestled all those 30+ years ago. When Wade hits a nerve...because that's what husbands do sometimes...I channel my inner mom (you). When work challenges me, I try and respond in a way that would make you proud.
You made every day a special occasion. And you loved like Christ loved. You loved the least of these. This is evident by the box dad dropped off at the house last week. Letters received during your three year battle, all letters from lives you touched.
Charlie has your laugh. She laughs all the time. And it's LOUD. I imagine her running to you sometimes. And you, swooping her up in your arms the way you did Henry and Sam. The two of you laughing together. She's my angel. She reminds me of you. I've told her stories of you and the fun we had together. And now I get to recreate those memories with her. You'll be there too, of course. In my heart and thoughts always.
Do you remember our last conversation, lying on your bed...you told me that Ann would have more babies, and that I'd need to be there for her. Little did we know that I'd have another baby too. And now Ann is having her second baby since you've been gone. It's another boy. She's leveling the field. Two boys and a girl each. Dad will have his hands full.
We just booked our next trip to Disney. It was your dream to take us there before you left. And while you won't be there in body, I know you'll be there in spirit. Wade and I are trying to be more intentional with our time together, while the kids are young. You taught us how to seize every precious moment and live each day to its absolute fullest.
Thank you for your gifts, your lessons, and most of all, your love.
"I remember a time when you were about Sam's age. You were pulled in two directions - Dad had asked you to go "drink coffee" at the donut shop, or you could stay home with Ann and me. She was still just a baby. You cried because you wanted to go with your dad, but then, you wanted to stay with me. You ran out of the house to your dad, but would then run back to me. You finally ended up staying home. You wanted to be in both places at the same time...
That's kind of how I see me - I am excited about going to heaven. I can only imagine meeting Jesus face-to-face. I'll be with mom and Cloe, Ann's baby, and relatives I never knew. But...when I run into His arms, I'll be leaving yours."
-- an excerpt from your last letter
